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Getting to a good level of communication with my kids took some self reflection and has had it’s growing pains. As with anything worthwhile, we get to the next level in our own thinking by re-examining our existing thought patterns, gathering new knowledge, and some basic hard work.
In my own personal growth, many times I feel like an unwilling participant in a flurried session of Whack-A-Mole! The arcade game.
This player is an expert and whacking moles is what he does! Getting whacked over and over does three things well; it makes your head hurt, gives you a renewed sense of urgency, and instills a strong conviction not to do this again!
Properly motivated now, the story moves on…
I did what I always do when life gets rough and I feel a little whacked.
I went to the local Barnes and Noble bookstore - with the connected Starbucks cafe. A girls gotta get a good cup of coffee and unwind sometimes!
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I’m guilty…
Not because I taught her that four-letter word. I spell out all my bad words. She didn’t hear this one from me.
When my daughter Kay was 16 years old, we were talking about college applications. The problem was that she only wanted to apply to colleges she was sure she would get in to. I’m like, “What?” The plan had always been University of Wisconsin, Madison. That had always been her first choice!
Really, I don’t mind her changing the plan. The issue is why she’s changing the plan.
After I told her that Madison accepts only 20% of its applicants, Kay reduced her dreams to other schools because she was afraid to fail. Bad mom! I never realized my little trivia lesson was going to be negative.
Fail - that’s a word I don’t want in my daughter’s vocabulary!
She doesn’t want to fail? Again, I’m like what?
You want to change your plan because you’re afraid to fail? You don’t even want to submit an application? You couldn’t take a UW-Madison rejection letter? It would make you feel like your whole life up to this point is a failure? If you weren’t accepted, all these years of school, the great grades, and the honor role would all be for nothing?
Nothing means ? (what) to a sixteen year old?
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