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I remembered when Kay and I used to watch The Gilmore Girls (2000-2007) together every tuesday night for almost six years.
The Series
This series was not so far off of where we were at that time as a family.
Loreli is a single mother raising her 13 year old daughter Rory in a small town. Loreli was fairly young when she had Rory so they some what ‘grow up together’ but when push comes to shove in their relationship, and parenting was needed, the series presented life lessons in a humorous but intelligent way.
The Casual Conversation
What was so great about this time together, was we could goof off, have fun, and have a casual conversation. We talked about everything from college, to fashion, to money, to dating and beyond. I learned so much about her from 6 years of this casual talk and I’m sure she learned a lot about me.
But the most important thing was we grew closer, we developed a closer relationship, we learned to share with each other, to agree as well as disagree (and if there is one thing you want to be able to do with your pre-teen, it’s learn how to thoughtfully disagree).
This poem is a continuation from the first poem, My Child.
The page that contains the initial poem, explains my thoughts and why I felt inspired to write these two poems, which is a little odd, because I don’t write poems.
My Child… Your Gift
My Child…
Again I will show you, just how remarkable are thee
how much I love you and that I created you, especially for me
All the gifts I have bestowed upon, each one of you
is completely individual you see
No two of you the same, an exquisite artwork made personally by me
my great masterpiece, my best work, so beautifully perfect are thee
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And now for your gift, further proof how valuable My Child must be
exists in your soul, the divine spark, to be a creator like me
If blessed with a soul mate who is so devoted to thee
executing the plan to perfection, who loves you and who also loves me
Who will treat you like My Princess Child, but on earth can it be?
of course – all is possible, My Children listen carefully to me
The poem below was inspired by The Shadow Effect movie in combination with my own spiritual growth and self reflection.
One of my main takeaways from the movie was how important it is that for each of us to truly forgive ourselves in a very deep personal way.
Most of us do not ‘really‘ acknowledge our perceived negative parts of our personality, The Shadow Effect brings to our attention that this part of us, when discovered, acknowledged, and reflected upon can become some what of a positive piece of our personality. It can and will add facets to our self understanding that we never considered. And changing this negative to a partial positive, will help us find more happiness in our own lives.
When I thought deeply about my own self forgiveness, I was inspired to write the poem below.
My Child
My Child…
You’d never have allowed yourself, never forgiven yourself,
never have set yourself free.
Never have deemed yourself worthy, had I not prepared a path for you
to follow and held the light for you to see.
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Only within the light of my reflection, within the safety of my never ending,
never changing — love could you see.
Could you open your eyes wide enough, to contemplate your brightness/
ponder yourself being what I’ve always known you to be.
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You See My Children…
You are on a journey…. to eventually becoming…
eventually becoming just like me
An angel of Light in the Darkness… that shinesbrightly…
so bright all will one day see
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This is my gift to you… You had been designed from the beginning
to be just like me.
Created in my image, crafted from my hands, my master work
my reflection – the way I created you to be.
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But our common attributes you could not see through the cloudy, dull
reflection you saw yourself to be…
Through me… Only then…Would you gaze upon your own reflection,and
see the beauty that I see…
For I am perfection! — The highest reflection of God!
Several years ago a bit of a tiff started in newspaper advice columns regarding family newsletters.
On one side were the people who said something like: “I’m sick of getting these ‘updates’ that are nothing more than a chance for people to brag about how wonderful their perfect children are and what awards they’ve won.”
Who cares?!
On the other side were the folks who said they looked forward to the missives, and they didn’t even care if a little bragging was involved. “It’s a chance to stay connected,” these people argued. “It’s nothing to be mad about.”
“In every conceivable manner, the family is link to our past, bridge to our future. ” —Alex Haley
The Doubt
As someone who faithfully sends a family newsletter every year, I worried.
What were my family and friends saying about me?
Was my newsletter something to be reviled and chucked in the recycling bin after they blew their nose on it?
